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    • Social Media Woes?

      Posted at 4:26 am by blkmentalspace, on June 7, 2018

      The topic I am about to share has been on my mind for quite some time. Have you scrolled through your social media timeline and noticed the celebratory posts regarding someone’s accomplishment? The person may have received a job promotion, a better job, a new man, new baby, new house etc. How did seeing those posts make you feel? Did it make you think back on what you are doing with your life? Did you start to count your “short comings”? I am not going to lie and say I did not compare my life to another person’s social media post. For instance, when I saw someone get a new job and post about it, I would be happy for them but at the same time I would question myself on what I am doing with my life. I used to be the one who measured my life based on what someone else was doing. When someone entered into a new relationship, I would be like, “dang, why am I still single or I would be like I wish I could have someone to call my own”. It got to the point where I blocked people from my timeline who I felt had a better life than me.

      There are many people who I talked to who shared the same sentiment as I did. Our issue was using social media to validate our success in life. Using social media to measure yourself is a detrimental thing to do. My friend shared that she became depressed when watching other’s success. I can admit, that I also became depressed.

      I want you to understand that the people you see posting on social media is on a different journey than what you are on. What you see them accomplishing and the moves they are making are not for you at this time. The person who you see posting their wonderful news probably had to put in work that was not shared on their social media. You do not know what they went through to get to where they’re at. It is OK to look at someone’s success and use it as motivation but when you use it to put yourself down is a problem.

      One of the things that helped me was keeping a gratitude journal. I would write down everything that I am grateful for at this time. Whenever I started to feel like crap, the gratitude journal served as an uplifting mood booster. I also started to have faith and trust the timing of my life..which I will write about in my next post.

      P.S: This is a step on the journey I am still going through.

      What are some things you are grateful for? How do you overcome the social media woes? Share them in the comment section below.

      | 1 Comment Tagged affirmations, appreciation, blackgirlblog, blues, emotional, mental, sadness, selfcare, social media, wellness
    • Take Care of Yo-Self First!

      Posted at 3:50 am by blkmentalspace, on June 2, 2018

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      This is for my girls who like to give, give, give and give. Your hearts are full of love that you just have to spread it around. You give even when you do not have it to give. This can be applied to monetary purposes but in this case, I am referring to your emotional and mental wellness. Do you all pay attention to the flight attendant’s instruction on an airplane?: During an emergency, put on your oxygen mask before you help the other person. Who knew that piece of advice could be used in your daily life! It is our natural instinct to nurture and care for those around us. Being so caring is not a bad thing but it can be bad if you are not taking care of yourself first. How can you help someone if you are not helping yourself? YOU are YOUR Number 1 responsibility. No one is going to remind you to make sure You got You!  

      Ladies, make sure you are looking out for your well-being. I am a big advocate for self-care. In a nutshell, self-care is about treating yourself as kindly as you treat others.

      Here are some self-care tips to try:

      • Keep a daily journal to jot down your feelings.
      • Listen to music you enjoy.
      • Read an interesting book.
      • Walk in nature.
      • Say daily affirmations.
      • Practice meditation.
      • Exercise.
      • Watch a good movie.
      • See a therapist/counselor.
      • Do something fun with friends.

      Let me know what self-care activities you enjoy in the comments below!

       

      Until Next Time

      -C.U.T Chris Unfiltered Thoughts

      | 6 Comments Tagged affirmations, emotional, energy, selfcare, wellness
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