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    • Social Media Woes?

      Posted at 4:26 am by blkmentalspace, on June 7, 2018

      The topic I am about to share has been on my mind for quite some time. Have you scrolled through your social media timeline and noticed the celebratory posts regarding someone’s accomplishment? The person may have received a job promotion, a better job, a new man, new baby, new house etc. How did seeing those posts make you feel? Did it make you think back on what you are doing with your life? Did you start to count your “short comings”? I am not going to lie and say I did not compare my life to another person’s social media post. For instance, when I saw someone get a new job and post about it, I would be happy for them but at the same time I would question myself on what I am doing with my life. I used to be the one who measured my life based on what someone else was doing. When someone entered into a new relationship, I would be like, “dang, why am I still single or I would be like I wish I could have someone to call my own”. It got to the point where I blocked people from my timeline who I felt had a better life than me.

      There are many people who I talked to who shared the same sentiment as I did. Our issue was using social media to validate our success in life. Using social media to measure yourself is a detrimental thing to do. My friend shared that she became depressed when watching other’s success. I can admit, that I also became depressed.

      I want you to understand that the people you see posting on social media is on a different journey than what you are on. What you see them accomplishing and the moves they are making are not for you at this time. The person who you see posting their wonderful news probably had to put in work that was not shared on their social media. You do not know what they went through to get to where they’re at. It is OK to look at someone’s success and use it as motivation but when you use it to put yourself down is a problem.

      One of the things that helped me was keeping a gratitude journal. I would write down everything that I am grateful for at this time. Whenever I started to feel like crap, the gratitude journal served as an uplifting mood booster. I also started to have faith and trust the timing of my life..which I will write about in my next post.

      P.S: This is a step on the journey I am still going through.

      What are some things you are grateful for? How do you overcome the social media woes? Share them in the comment section below.

      | 1 Comment Tagged affirmations, appreciation, blackgirlblog, blues, emotional, mental, sadness, selfcare, social media, wellness
    • Back from the hiatus

      Posted at 3:30 am by blkmentalspace, on June 2, 2018

      I know it has been awhile since I wrote my first blog post. Life events have kept me busy. I have a lot going on right now between grad school, work, family and social life. As a result, my blog was neglected. I am going to make a more conscientious effort to post once a week. The direction I first wanted to take with the blog sounded pretty in my head but on paper, I could not formally wrap my head around the concept. I come to the realization that I am not an organized person but rather, I am very random. If I could paint a picture of my thoughts they would be a picture of children’s toys all over the living room floor. LOL, to the child this view is not bothering them.  They know where to go to grab the toy of their liking but to the parent all they see is chaos in front of them. When I try to verbalize my thoughts to other people, they have to really focus to follow along with my thoughts. It’s OK. I have come to understand the method to my madness. I say all of this to say that this self-help blog will be random but it will be helpful. I will write posts that are on my heart and mind at the time. These posts will be from my perspective and I hope that you all can relate to them. Maybe one day I will create a YouTube channel to go along with this blog. Well, that’s all for now. Peace!

       

      -C.U.T Chris Unfiltered Thoughts

      | 0 Comments Tagged blackgirlblog, emotional, mental, selfcare, therapy, wellness
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